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The Back Bedroom<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

On the first Monday in November, I found Grandma Lorraine in Darla\u2019s back bedroom with the door shut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was a little after four in the afternoon. I\u2019d driven out to drop off a bag of the cinnamon bread Grandma likes from the bakery next to my shop. Darla\u2019s car was in the driveway, but nobody answered when I knocked, so I let myself in through the kitchen like I\u2019ve done a hundred times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The house was quiet except for the television in the living room. A game show. Nobody watching it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I walked down the hall and tapped on the back bedroom door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGrandma? It\u2019s me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was a long pause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDon\u2019t come in,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I opened the door anyway. Just a crack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was sitting in the old green recliner by the window, the one Darla had hauled up from the basement when Grandma moved in. Her legs were covered with an afghan. Her left wrist was still in a soft brace from July.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And she was holding one hand flat on top of her head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pressing down. Like she was trying to hold her hair in place in a strong wind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cDon\u2019t look at me, Nicole,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She hadn\u2019t called me Nicole since my wedding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seven years ago, at the reception in the Legion hall, she\u2019d hugged me in the receiving line and said, Welcome to the family, Nicky.<\/em> She\u2019d called me Nicky ever since. Nicky this. Nicky, come here. Nicky, you\u2019re putting too much product in that child\u2019s hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not Nicole. Never Nicole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nicole is what you call somebody you want to keep at arm\u2019s length.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma,\u201d I said. \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She turned her face toward the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNothing\u2019s wrong,\u201d she said. \u201cI\u2019m tired. Go on home.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I came all the way into the room. I pulled the little wooden desk chair over and sat down in front of her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s when I saw it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Her hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma Lorraine\u2019s hair is white. Pure white, soft as dandelion fluff. For sixty years, she set it in pin curls every Saturday night and brushed them out on Sunday morning before church. Short and soft and perfectly round, like a cloud sitting on top of her head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It wasn\u2019t a cloud anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was flat. Matted. Greasy at the roots and tangled at the ends. There was a knot behind her left ear the size of a walnut. Her scalp was red and flaking around her part line, where she\u2019d been scratching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirteen years doing hair teaches you one thing above all others. You don\u2019t say anything about a person\u2019s hair until they ask you to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But my throat closed up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because I knew what I was looking at. I\u2019d seen it before, on women at the nursing home in town where I do volunteer hair every other Tuesday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s what hair looks like when nobody\u2019s washed it in a very long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Two: Lorraine<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I need to tell you about Grandma Lorraine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She\u2019s ninety-one. She\u2019s my husband Joel\u2019s grandmother on his father\u2019s side. She was born in a farmhouse outside Viroqua, Wisconsin, in 1934, and she\u2019s lived within ten miles of that farmhouse her whole life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She married Joel\u2019s grandfather, Walter, in 1953. They had two sons. One of them is Joel\u2019s dad, Ron.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But that\u2019s not the most important thing about her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The most important thing about Grandma Lorraine is that for forty years, she ran Lorraine\u2019s Beauty Nook on Main Street in Viroqua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It was a two-chair shop in a narrow brick building between the hardware store and the bank. Pink walls. Black-and-white checkered floor. Two big hooded hair dryers that looked like spaceships. A wall of mirrors with her license framed in the corner. Lorraine Pederson, Licensed Cosmetologist, State of Wisconsin, 1956.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every woman in Viroqua went to Lorraine. Brides and widows and girls getting ready for prom. Farm wives who came in once a month for a wash and set and stayed two hours to gossip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She closed it in 1998, when Walter got sick.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I bought that building in 2016.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I was twenty-two. Fresh out of cosmetology school in La Crosse. I\u2019d grown up in Viroqua and always wanted my own shop. The building had been empty for eighteen years. The pink walls had faded to the color of an old eraser.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t know it had been Lorraine\u2019s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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On my first day, before I even had my sign up, an old woman walked in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

White hair set in perfect pin curls. A lavender cardigan. A purse hanging from her elbow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She stood in the doorway and looked around for a long time. At the empty space where the hooded dryers used to be. At the checkered floor I\u2019d decided to keep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI set hair in this room for forty years,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That was Lorraine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She sat in my chair that afternoon and let me wash and set her hair. She watched every move I made in the mirror. She corrected me six times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cToo much tension on that roll,\u201d she said. \u201cYou\u2019ll give me a headache.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cPin it flat. Not crossways. It\u2019ll leave a dent.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHoney, you\u2019re using too much setting lotion. You\u2019re not glazing a ham.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When I was done, she looked at herself in the mirror for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she nodded once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou\u2019ll do,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She paid me twelve dollars and tipped me five. Then she said, \u201cI\u2019ll be back next Saturday. Two o\u2019clock. Don\u2019t be late.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She came every Saturday for three years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She taught me everything they don\u2019t teach you in beauty school. How to set a pin curl that lasts a week. How to tell a woman her husband\u2019s having an affair without saying a word. How to keep your hand cupped against a client\u2019s forehead at the sink so not one drop runs into her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s the whole job, Nicky,\u201d she told me once. \u201cMaking somebody feel safe with their eyes closed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In the third year, she brought her grandson to the shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He needed a haircut. He was home from his job in Madison for Thanksgiving. Tall, quiet, with a farmer\u2019s tan and nervous hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lorraine sat in the waiting chair and watched me cut his hair. When I was done, she said, \u201cJoel, ask her to dinner.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were married two years later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Three: July<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In July, Grandma fell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was living alone in her little house on Jefferson Street, the same house she and Walter bought in 1961. She\u2019d been fine. Fiercely independent. Driving herself to church and the grocery store in her 1997 Buick, which she called the Duchess.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was hanging wash on the clothesline in her backyard. She stepped wrong off the back stoop. She put her hand out to catch herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She broke her left wrist in two places.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She was in the hospital in La Crosse for four days. Then a rehab facility for three weeks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When she came out, the doctors said she couldn\u2019t live alone anymore. Not for a while. Maybe not ever. Her wrist wasn\u2019t healing right. Her balance was worse. She needed someone in the house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Joel and I offered to take her. We have a spare room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But we live in an upstairs apartment above my shop on Main Street. Steep stairs. No railing on one side. The doctor said absolutely not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So Darla took her in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla is Joel\u2019s mother. Ron\u2019s wife. She\u2019s sixty-two. She works part-time as a cashier at the Kwik Trip on Highway 14, and she keeps a neat, small ranch house on the edge of town with a big garden and a dog named Biscuit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She and Lorraine have never gotten along.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I don\u2019t know all of it. Joel doesn\u2019t know all of it either. Some things happened before he was born, and nobody talks about them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I know that for forty years, Lorraine made it clear she thought Ron could have done better. She criticized Darla\u2019s cooking. Darla\u2019s housekeeping. Darla\u2019s hair, which Lorraine said looked like a haystack in a windstorm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She did it at Thanksgiving dinner. At Christmas. At Joel\u2019s high school graduation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla took it. For forty years. Smiling with her teeth clenched.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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And now Lorraine lived in her back bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Four: The Payee<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In August, Darla became Grandma\u2019s representative payee at the Social Security office in La Crosse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That means she manages Grandma\u2019s Social Security check. It goes into an account in Darla\u2019s name, for Grandma\u2019s benefit. Darla pays Grandma\u2019s bills. Buys her groceries. Covers her expenses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s legal. It\u2019s common. Families do it all the time when an older person can\u2019t manage their own money anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma\u2019s Social Security is sixteen hundred and forty dollars a month.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of that, Darla keeps twelve hundred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For room and board. For her keep,<\/em> Darla calls it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma gets the other four hundred and forty for her medications and her phone and her church offering envelope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t know that until October.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma told me. On the phone. Almost by accident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDarla keeps twelve hundred,\u201d she said. \u201cFor my keep. I don\u2019t mind. It\u2019s her house.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I checked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I spent an evening on the Social Security website, reading the rules for representative payees. A payee is allowed to charge room and board. They\u2019re allowed to use the money for the person\u2019s food and shelter and care. It has to be reasonable. It has to be for the person\u2019s benefit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Twelve hundred dollars a month for a room, three meals, utilities, and someone to keep an eye on you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Viroqua, Wisconsin, that\u2019s not unreasonable. It might even be fair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma was fed. She was safe. She had a warm bed and her medications and a roof over her head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A skipped shampoo is not a call to the sheriff. It\u2019s not something you report to Adult Protective Services.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was our family\u2019s shame to fix.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Five: What Grandma Said<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Back in the bedroom, I sat in the little desk chair and didn\u2019t say anything for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finally, Grandma took her hand off her head. She folded both hands in her lap. She looked at them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy scalp itches,\u201d she said quietly. \u201cIt\u2019s itched for weeks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWhen did you last wash it?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGrandma.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI can\u2019t lift my arm high enough,\u201d she said. \u201cNot since the wrist. I tried in the shower. In September. I couldn\u2019t get my hands up to my head.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at the brace on her left wrist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd I can\u2019t bend over the sink,\u201d she said. \u201cI get dizzy. I almost fell.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cDid you ask Darla to help?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s mouth went tight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m not asking that woman to wash my hair,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cShe\u2019d do it rough,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cShe\u2019d get soap in my eyes. She\u2019d yank the comb. She\u2019d stand there and sigh the whole time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked out the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd she\u2019d know,\u201d she said quietly. \u201cShe\u2019d know I couldn\u2019t do it myself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That was it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That was the real thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not the soap. Not the comb. Not the sighing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lorraine Pederson, who\u2019d washed and set the hair of every woman in Viroqua for forty years, could not stand to have her daughter-in-law see her helpless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma,\u201d I said. \u201cHow are you getting to church?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGrandma.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI quit going,\u201d she said. \u201cIn September.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma Lorraine has gone to Viroqua Lutheran Church every Sunday since 1941. She was confirmed there. Married there. Buried her husband from there. She sits in the fourth pew on the left side, the one with the brass plaque that says In Memory of Walter Pederson.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI told Pastor Dahl\u2019s wife I had a cold,\u201d she said. \u201cEvery week. Seven weeks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI can\u2019t go to church looking like this, Nicky,\u201d she said. \u201cI\u2019d rather die.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She\u2019d called me Nicky again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t think she noticed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Six: The Kitchen<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I left Grandma in her recliner and walked down the hall to the kitchen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla was standing at the stove, stirring a pot of chili. She was wearing her blue Kwik Trip polo shirt and jeans. Her own hair, gray-blonde and frizzy, was pulled back in a scrunchie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked tired. More tired than I\u2019d ever seen her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOh,\u201d she said when she saw me. \u201cNicole. I didn\u2019t hear you come in.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI brought cinnamon bread,\u201d I said. I set the bag on the counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat was nice of you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She went back to stirring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I stood there for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDarla,\u201d I said carefully. \u201cWhen was Grandma\u2019s hair last washed?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla\u2019s spoon stopped moving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t turn around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAugust, maybe,\u201d she said. \u201cEarly August. Right after she got here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She went back to stirring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cShe fights me on it,\u201d Darla said. \u201cEvery time I bring it up. She says she\u2019ll do it herself. She won\u2019t let me near her head.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She tapped the spoon on the edge of the pot. Hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd I\u2019m not her maid,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t answer her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wanted to. I had a whole speech ready. About August being three months ago. About Grandma\u2019s scalp being red and raw. About a woman who hadn\u2019t missed church in eighty-four years sitting alone in a back bedroom on Sunday mornings because she was ashamed of her hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t say any of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Because I was looking at the kitchen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the pill organizer on the counter, the big kind with seven days and four slots per day, every slot filled. At the calendar on the refrigerator, with doctor\u2019s appointments written in Darla\u2019s handwriting. Orthopedic. Cardiology. Physical therapy, twice a week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the stack of laundry on the kitchen chair. Grandma\u2019s nightgowns, washed and folded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the case of Ensure on the floor by the pantry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the dark circles under Darla\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I picked up my purse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019ll see you, Darla,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t turn around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Seven: Joel<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

That night, I told Joel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were sitting at our kitchen table in the apartment above the shop. I\u2019d made spaghetti. Neither of us was eating much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I finished, Joel set down his fork.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAugust,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s what she said.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThree months.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAlmost.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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He pushed back from the table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m calling her,\u201d he said. \u201cRight now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He picked up his phone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cJoel, wait,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNicky, she\u2019s keeping twelve hundred dollars a month of Grandma\u2019s money, and she can\u2019t wash her hair once?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI know,\u201d I said. \u201cI know. But listen to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He stopped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you call her tonight,\u201d I said, \u201cshe\u2019s going to get defensive. She\u2019s going to yell. You\u2019re going to yell. Then she\u2019s going to call your dad in Nebraska and cry, and he\u2019s going to call you and yell, and nothing\u2019s going to change except everybody\u2019s going to be mad at everybody.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Joel\u2019s dad, Ron, drives a semi for a trucking company out of Tomah. He hauls paper rolls from the mill in Port Edwards to printing plants all over the Midwest. He\u2019d been gone seventeen days on this run. Somewhere around Lincoln, Nebraska, by now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He calls Darla every night at nine. He\u2019s home maybe four days a month.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAnd Grandma\u2019s hair still won\u2019t be washed,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joel looked at me for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo what do you want to do?\u201d he asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cLet me go first,\u201d I said. \u201cSaturday.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGo do what?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat I know how to do,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Eight: The Phone Call<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The next evening, I called Grandma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I waited until seven o\u2019clock, when I knew Darla would be at the Kwik Trip for her evening shift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma answered on the fifth ring. Her voice was thin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHello?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGrandma, it\u2019s Nicky.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOh,\u201d she said. \u201cHello, Nicky.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma,\u201d I said. \u201cI\u2019d like to book an appointment.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was a pause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAn appointment for what?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cFor you,\u201d I said. \u201cA wash and set. Saturday. At Darla\u2019s house. I\u2019ll bring my things.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The line was quiet for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m not a charity case,\u201d Grandma said finally. Her voice was sharp. The old voice. The Beauty Nook voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNo, ma\u2019am,\u201d I said. \u201cYou\u2019re my two o\u2019clock.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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A long quiet on the line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I could hear the game show playing in the background. I could hear her breathing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I could hear her thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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For sixty years, Lorraine Pederson had a two o\u2019clock appointment every Saturday. First in her own chair, setting her own hair. Then in my chair, for three years, before her eyes got too bad to drive to Main Street.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two o\u2019clock on Saturday was the most sacred hour of her week. More sacred, I think, than Sunday morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBring the good setting lotion,\u201d she said finally. \u201cNot that cheap stuff from the drugstore.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes, ma\u2019am.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd a real towel,\u201d she said. \u201cNot one of those paper capes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes, ma\u2019am.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There was another pause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTwo o\u2019clock,\u201d she said. \u201cDon\u2019t be late.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She hung up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I sat at my kitchen table with the phone in my hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I cried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Nine: Saturday<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

On Saturday, I packed my kit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not my everyday kit. My good kit. The one I take to weddings and funerals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two bottles of gentle shampoo, the kind for sensitive scalps. A bottle of conditioner. The good setting lotion, the kind Grandma taught me to use, in the brown glass bottle with the old-fashioned label. A wide-tooth comb. A fine-tooth comb. A rattail comb for parting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A box of steel pin curl clips. Two hundred of them. The double-prong kind she liked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A handheld dryer with a diffuser. A round bristle brush. A can of hairspray.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My black vinyl shampoo cape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And three white bath towels. Thick. Soft. Brand new. I\u2019d bought them at the Farm & Fleet in La Crosse on Wednesday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I drove out to Darla\u2019s at one-thirty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was a gray November day, cold and still. The maple trees in her front yard had dropped all their leaves. Biscuit the dog was barking at the mailbox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I carried my kit up the front steps. I knocked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla met me at the door in a red sweatshirt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at me. She looked at my kit. At the towels over my arm. At the folding chair I\u2019d brought from the shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat is all this?\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma\u2019s appointment,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla stared at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHer appointment,\u201d she repeated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTwo o\u2019clock,\u201d I said. \u201cShe booked it Tuesday.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla didn\u2019t move out of the doorway for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she stepped aside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t say anything. She just walked into the kitchen and stood by the refrigerator with her arms crossed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Ten: The Lavender Cardigan<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

At one fifty-five, Grandma came down the hall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was using her walker. The one with the tennis balls on the feet. She was moving slowly, carefully, the way she does now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was wearing her lavender cardigan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That cardigan is fifty years old. Walter bought it for her at a department store in La Crosse in 1975, for their twenty-second anniversary. It\u2019s pilled at the elbows. One of the pearl buttons has been replaced with a plain white one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She wore it every Saturday to the Beauty Nook. And every Saturday to my shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She\u2019d put it on for her appointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She\u2019d put on lipstick too. Pink. A little crooked, because she couldn\u2019t hold the tube steady with her bad wrist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And she\u2019d tied a silk scarf over her head. Navy blue with little white flowers. Knotted under her chin. Hiding her hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She stopped at the edge of the kitchen. She looked at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou\u2019re early,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cFive minutes,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGood,\u201d she said. \u201cEarly is on time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I dropped my black cape on the counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma looked at it. She frowned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNot that,\u201d she said. \u201cA towel.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe cape keeps your cardigan dry,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI don\u2019t care about my cardigan,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cI want a towel. Around my shoulders. The way my mother did it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Her mother, Ingrid, used to wash Lorraine\u2019s hair in the kitchen of their farmhouse when she was a little girl. In a big enamel basin. With water heated on the wood stove and a white flour sack towel around her shoulders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma told me that story once, on a Saturday in my shop, while she was under the dryer. She said it was the reason she became a beautician.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy mother\u2019s hands,\u201d she said. \u201cIn my hair. In the kitchen. I never felt so safe in my life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I put the cape away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I took out one of the new white towels. I unfolded it. I tucked it around Grandma\u2019s shoulders, over her lavender cardigan. Snug around her neck, the way she taught me. Not too tight. Just enough so it wouldn\u2019t slip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She nodded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s right,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Eleven: The Sink<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Darla\u2019s kitchen sink is a double steel sink under a window that looks out over her vegetable garden. The garden was done for the year. Brown tomato cages. A row of dead cornstalks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I unfolded my folding chair. I backed it up to the sink. I adjusted the height so the back of the chair would tilt just right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I put a rolled-up hand towel on the edge of the sink, for her neck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla stood in the doorway to the living room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She had her arms crossed. She didn\u2019t say anything. She just watched.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma,\u201d I said. \u201cCan you sit?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She let go of her walker. I took her good arm. I helped her lower herself into the folding chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She sat very straight. Her hands folded in her lap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she reached up with her right hand, the good one, and untied the silk scarf under her chin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She held it for a moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she pulled it off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t look at Darla. I didn\u2019t look at anything but Grandma\u2019s hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flat and matted. Greasy at the roots. The walnut-sized knot behind her left ear. Her scalp red and flaking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma closed her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWell,\u201d she said quietly. \u201cGo on. Get it over with.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I helped her lean back. Slowly. One inch at a time. Until her neck rested on the rolled-up towel at the edge of the sink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her eyes were still closed. Her hands were gripping the arms of the folding chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I turned on the faucet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I tested the water on my wrist. Too hot. I adjusted it. Tested again. Too cool. Adjusted it again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Warm. Like a bath. Like the water her mother heated on the wood stove.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I cupped my left hand at her forehead. Right along her hairline. So nothing would run in her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way she taught me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s the whole job, Nicky. Making somebody feel safe with their eyes closed.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then I let the first warm water touch her head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma\u2019s whole body went still.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her hands let go of the arms of the chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her shoulders dropped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She let out a breath I think she\u2019d been holding for three months.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cOh,\u201d she said. \u201cOh, honey.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I had to look at the faucet for a minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Twelve: Two Shampoos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I washed her hair twice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first shampoo didn\u2019t lather at all. Three months of oil and dead skin and the residue of old hairspray. It just slid off her hair like water off a duck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I rinsed. I worked the shampoo into her scalp with my fingertips. Slow circles. Gentle. Around the red patches where she\u2019d been scratching. Behind her ears. At the nape of her neck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She kept her eyes closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The second shampoo lathered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

White foam, soft and thick, all through her hair. I massaged her scalp for five full minutes. I could feel her relax under my hands. Her jaw unclenching. Her breathing slowing down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At one point, I thought she\u2019d fallen asleep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then I rinsed. Slowly. Thoroughly. Every bit of soap. One hand cupped at her forehead the whole time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not one drop ran into her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then the conditioner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then the knot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The knot behind her left ear took forty minutes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I worked it with my fingers first, then the wide-tooth comb, then the rattail comb. One strand at a time. Holding the hair above the knot so the comb wouldn\u2019t pull at her scalp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma sat with her eyes closed, her neck on the towel, her hands in her lap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt pulls,\u201d she said once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d I said. \u201cI\u2019ll go slower.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cNo,\u201d she said. \u201cIt pulls the way it ought to pull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She opened her eyes and looked up at me. Upside down, from the sink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe way it does when somebody\u2019s taking care of it,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Thirteen: Darla<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Halfway through the knot, Darla spoke from the doorway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019d almost forgotten she was there. She\u2019d been so quiet. Standing with her arms crossed, watching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cNobody in this family came out here once,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her voice was low. Shaking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNot once,\u201d she said. \u201cTo see if I was drowning.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I stopped combing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I looked up at her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla wasn\u2019t looking at me. She was looking at Grandma, lying back in the folding chair with her eyes closed and her wet hair spread out in the steel sink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cRon\u2019s gone three weeks out of every four,\u201d Darla said. \u201cJoel lives in town but he works sixty hours a week. His brother\u2019s in Minneapolis and calls on holidays. Nobody else came. Not once since July.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her voice cracked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI work at the Kwik Trip four nights a week. I cut my hours from thirty to twenty when she moved in. I get up at six to give her pills. I drive her to La Crosse twice a week for physical therapy. I do her laundry. I cook her meals. I help her to the bathroom at two in the morning.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd every single day,\u201d Darla said, \u201cshe tells me I\u2019m doing it wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The kitchen was very quiet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s eyes were still closed. But I could see her jaw tightening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cShe fights me on everything,\u201d Darla said. \u201cThe food. The pills. Getting dressed. And the hair.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She swallowed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI tried, Nicole,\u201d she said. \u201cIn September. I filled the bathroom sink and got a towel and asked her if she wanted me to wash her hair. She looked at me like I\u2019d slapped her. She said she\u2019d rather go bald than let me touch her head.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She wiped her eyes with the back of her hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo I stopped asking,\u201d she said. \u201cBecause I was tired. Because I was so, so tired.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She was right about that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

About all of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWe didn\u2019t,\u201d I said quietly. \u201cWe didn\u2019t come out. I\u2019m sorry, Darla.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla stared at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t think anyone had said that to her before. Not Ron. Not Joel. Not anybody.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t say anything. She just stood in the doorway with her arms crossed and tears running down her face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Fourteen: The Curls<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When the knot was out, I sat Grandma up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wrapped her head in a second white towel. I patted her hair until it was damp, not wet. The way you have to for a good pin curl set.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then I pulled a kitchen chair over and sat down in front of her with the box of pin curl clips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOkay, Grandma,\u201d I said. \u201cTell me how you want it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She looked at me for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she told me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cLeft side one way,\u201d she said. \u201cClockwise. Toward my face.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes, ma\u2019am.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cRight side the other. Counterclockwise. Away from my face.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes, ma\u2019am.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTwo rows across the back. Flat curls. Not stand-ups. And don\u2019t you dare put them crossways.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNo, ma\u2019am.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She couldn\u2019t reach up yet with her bad wrist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But she could hold the box.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So she held the box of clips in her lap. And every time I wound a curl around my finger and pressed it flat against her head, she handed me a clip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One at a time. With her good hand. Holding it out between two fingers, the way she\u2019d held them out for sixty years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I set the left side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She handed me twenty-two clips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I set the right side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She handed me twenty-four.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Twice, she made me redo one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat one\u2019s crooked,\u201d she said. \u201cTake it out.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I took it out. I wound it again. I pinned it flat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBetter,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second time, she didn\u2019t even look in a mirror. She just reached up with her good hand and touched the curl and said, \u201cNo. That\u2019s too tight. You\u2019ll give me a headache.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was right. It was too tight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Halfway through the back rows, something happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla came in from the doorway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She walked across the kitchen. She didn\u2019t say anything. She went to the coffee maker on the counter. She filled the pot from the tap. She measured out coffee into the filter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She started it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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While it brewed, she got three mugs down from the cabinet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it was done, she poured three cups of coffee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One black, for herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One with cream and two sugars, for me. I don\u2019t know how she knew. I\u2019d never had coffee at her house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And one with just a little cream, in a white mug with blue flowers, for Grandma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She set Grandma\u2019s mug on the counter beside her chair. Close enough to reach with her good hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma looked at the mug.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at Darla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Neither of them said anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then Darla pulled out a kitchen chair. She sat down across from us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And she watched me set the last row of curls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Fifteen: The Mirror<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s hair took an hour and a half to dry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I used the handheld dryer with the diffuser on low. Moving slowly. Back and forth. Never too hot, never too close.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma drank her coffee. Darla drank hers. Nobody talked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Biscuit came in from the living room and lay down at Grandma\u2019s feet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When the curls were dry, I took the clips out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One at a time. Seventy-four of them. Dropping them back in the box. Each curl springing loose, soft and white and round.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then I brushed them out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With the round bristle brush. Gently. The way she taught me. Brushing each curl around my finger so it would fall into place. Fluffing the crown. Smoothing the sides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I was done, her hair was a cloud again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Soft and white and round. Sitting on top of her head like it had every Sunday morning for sixty years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I set the brush down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I reached into my kit. I took out my hand mirror. The silver one with the long handle. It was the first thing I bought when I opened my shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I put it in Grandma\u2019s hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Her hands were shaking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla set her coffee down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma held the mirror in both hands. Her good one and her bad one, in the soft brace. She lifted it slowly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then she touched her own hair with the tips of her fingers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The left side. The right side. The crown. Feeling each curl. The way she used to feel her clients\u2019 curls, after a set, to check that they were right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her lips were moving. I couldn\u2019t hear what she was saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cGrandma?\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She lowered the mirror.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at me. Her eyes were full of tears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThere I am,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Sixteen: What Lorraine Said<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nobody said anything for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then Grandma turned in her chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She turned away from me. Toward Darla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla was sitting across the kitchen table with both hands around her coffee mug. She was crying too. Quietly. She didn\u2019t wipe her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma looked at her for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDarla,\u201d she said. \u201cCome here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla looked surprised. She hesitated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then she got up. She walked around the table. She stood beside Grandma\u2019s chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma reached up with her good hand. She took Darla\u2019s hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI fought you,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cOn the hair. I know I did.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI told you I\u2019d rather go bald,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cI\u2019m sorry. That was a terrible thing to say.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla\u2019s face crumpled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhy?\u201d she said. \u201cWhy wouldn\u2019t you let me help you? I tried, Lorraine. I really tried.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Grandma looked down at their joined hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBecause of 1986,\u201d she said quietly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla went very still.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I didn\u2019t know what that meant. I looked at Grandma. Then at Darla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat happened in 1986?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Neither of them answered right away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then Grandma spoke.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cDarla had Joel\u2019s older brother in the spring of 1986,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cMatthew. And she was very sick afterward. Very sad. The kind of sad they have a name for now, but back then we just called it the baby blues.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at Darla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cRon was on the road,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cLike always. And Darla called me. At the shop. In the middle of a Saturday. She was crying so hard I could barely understand her.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cShe asked me to come over,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cJust for an hour. To hold the baby so she could wash her hair. She said she hadn\u2019t washed it in three weeks. She said she couldn\u2019t remember the last time she\u2019d taken a shower.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s voice cracked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd I said no,\u201d she said. \u201cI said I had clients. I said I had a two o\u2019clock. I said she\u2019d have to manage like everybody else did.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The kitchen was completely silent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla was crying openly now. Holding Grandma\u2019s hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI hung up on her,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cAnd I went back to my two o\u2019clock. And I set Agnes Torkelson\u2019s hair. And I never once went over there. Not that day. Not that whole spring.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYou remember that?\u201d Darla whispered. \u201cI didn\u2019t think you remembered.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019ve thought about it every day since July,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cEvery single day. Lying in that back bedroom.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked up at her daughter-in-law.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t come when you needed me,\u201d she said. \u201cForty years ago. When you couldn\u2019t wash your own hair. And now I\u2019m the one who can\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She swallowed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI couldn\u2019t stand to let you see me like that,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cI couldn\u2019t stand to let you do for me what I wouldn\u2019t do for you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darla knelt down beside the folding chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She put her arms around her mother-in-law.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma held on to her. Her good hand on Darla\u2019s back. Her soft white curls against Darla\u2019s frizzy gray-blonde hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They stayed like that for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Seventeen: The Ledger<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

That night, after I\u2019d packed up my kit, Darla walked me out to my car.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was dark already. Cold. The stars were out over the dead garden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She stopped by my car door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNicole,\u201d she said. \u201cWait.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She held out something. A spiral notebook. Green cover. The kind you buy at Walgreens for a dollar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI want you to see this,\u201d she said. \u201cSo you know. And so you can tell Joel.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I opened it under the dome light of my car.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was a ledger. In Darla\u2019s handwriting. Every page. Every month since August.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s SS: $1,640.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s meds (co-pays): $187.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ensure (2 cases): $64.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adult briefs: $48.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hospital bed rental: $135.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gas to La Crosse PT (8 trips): $96.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Groceries (Grandma\u2019s share): $310.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Electric (heated mattress pad, extra heat for back bedroom): $85 increase.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Church envelope: $40.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phone: $35.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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At the bottom of each month, Darla had written a total.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandma\u2019s expenses: $1,000.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then another line underneath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lost wages (cut hours at Kwik Trip): $640.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n\n\n\n

I looked up at her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe twelve hundred,\u201d Darla said quietly. \u201cAbout a thousand goes to her things. The rest I\u2019ve been using to cover the hours I lost. So I can be home with her.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looked at the ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI know how it looks,\u201d she said. \u201cTwelve hundred dollars for her keep. I know what people are saying at church. I know what Joel thinks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWhy didn\u2019t you tell anyone?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Darla laughed. It wasn\u2019t a happy sound.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWho would I tell?\u201d she said. \u201cNobody asked.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Part Eighteen: The Family Meeting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ron came home on Tuesday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seventeen days on the road. He pulled into the driveway at four in the afternoon, still in his trucking company jacket, and found his whole family sitting at his kitchen table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joel. Me. His other son, Matthew, who\u2019d driven down from Minneapolis that morning. Darla. And Grandma, in her lavender cardigan, with her hair still in soft white curls from Saturday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ron stood in the kitchen doorway with his duffel bag.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He looked at all of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat\u2019s going on?\u201d he said. \u201cIs somebody dead?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSit down, Dad,\u201d Joel said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We told him everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The hair. The church. The back bedroom. The ledger. Darla\u2019s cut hours. Two in the morning trips to the bathroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    When we were done, Ron sat at the head of his own kitchen table and stared at his hands for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He\u2019s sixty-five. He\u2019s been driving a truck for thirty-eight years. He has a gray beard and a big belly and hands like catcher\u2019s mitts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He\u2019s never been much of a talker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    \u201cI didn\u2019t know,\u201d he said finally. \u201cDarla, I didn\u2019t know it was this bad.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cYou didn\u2019t ask,\u201d Darla said quietly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Ron flinched.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cEvery night at nine,\u201d Darla said. \u201cYou call. And you ask how\u2019s Mom. And I say fine. And you say good. And you hang up.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She looked at him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cYou never once asked how I was,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Ron didn\u2019t say anything for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then he looked at his mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cMom,\u201d he said. \u201cWhy didn\u2019t you tell me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Grandma looked at her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cBecause I\u2019m stubborn,\u201d she said. \u201cBecause I\u2019m proud. Because I\u2019d rather sit in a back bedroom with dirty hair than admit I need help.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She looked at Darla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cI learned it from my mother,\u201d Grandma said. \u201cAnd I taught it to you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She looked back at Ron.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cAnd you married a woman who had to learn it from both of us,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Part Nineteen: The Schedule<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    We made a schedule that night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla wrote it on a big sheet of paper and taped it to the refrigerator next to the doctor\u2019s calendar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Monday \u2014 Matthew (FaceTime, 7 p.m.).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Tuesday \u2014 Joel (dinner + evening with Grandma, Darla gets night off).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Wednesday \u2014 Darla.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Thursday \u2014 Nicole (PT drive to La Crosse).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Friday \u2014 Darla.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Saturday \u2014 2:00 p.m. Grandma\u2019s appointment. Nicole.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sunday \u2014 Church. Joel drives.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When Ron is home \u2014 Ron does EVERYTHING.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Ron laughed when he read the last line. It was the first time I\u2019d heard him laugh in months.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cFair enough,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    We decided on the money too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Joel and Matthew would each contribute two hundred dollars a month. Toward Grandma\u2019s care. So Darla could go back up to thirty hours at the Kwik Trip if she wanted. Or not. Her choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla would keep being the payee. But the ledger would go on the refrigerator. Every month. Where everyone could see it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cNot because we don\u2019t trust you,\u201d Joel told his mother. \u201cBecause nobody should have to keep a ledger alone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Part Twenty: Sunday<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    On Sunday, Grandma went to church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Joel drove her. I sat in the back seat. Darla sat in the front with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma wore her lavender cardigan. Her pink lipstick, straight this time, because I\u2019d put it on for her. And her hair. Soft and white and round. A cloud sitting on top of her head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    She walked into Viroqua Lutheran Church on her walker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Slowly. Down the center aisle. To the fourth pew on the left side, with the brass plaque that says In Memory of Walter Pederson.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    People turned to look.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Agnes Torkelson was sitting in the pew behind her. Ninety-three years old. One of Grandma\u2019s oldest clients from the Beauty Nook.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She leaned forward. She tapped Grandma on the shoulder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cLorraine,\u201d she whispered. \u201cYour hair looks lovely.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma turned around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cMy granddaughter-in-law set it,\u201d she said. \u201cNicky. She has my old shop.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She paused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cAnd my daughter-in-law helped,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Darla, sitting beside her in the pew, went very still.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then she reached over and took Grandma\u2019s hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Pastor Dahl\u2019s wife came over after the service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cLorraine!\u201d she said. \u201cWe\u2019ve missed you so much. How\u2019s your cold?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma looked at her for a long moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cIt wasn\u2019t a cold, Ruth,\u201d she said. \u201cIt was my hair. I couldn\u2019t wash it. And I was too proud to let anyone help me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Ruth Dahl\u2019s mouth fell open.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma patted her arm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cDon\u2019t make that face,\u201d she said. \u201cIt\u2019s fixed now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Part Twenty-One: Darla Learns<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    In December, Darla asked me to teach her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She came to my shop on a Thursday afternoon, after closing. She stood in the doorway in her red sweatshirt, looking around at the checkered floor and the two chairs and the wall of mirrors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cI\u2019ve never been in here,\u201d she said. \u201cNot when it was Lorraine\u2019s. Not when it was yours.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cNever?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cShe never invited me,\u201d Darla said. \u201cAnd I never asked.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    I sat her in my chair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I gave her a mannequin head with a wig on it. White, short, curly. I gave her a box of pin curl clips and a bottle of setting lotion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cLeft side clockwise,\u201d I said. \u201cToward the face.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Darla was terrible at it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Her curls were too loose. Then too tight. She pinned them crossways. She dropped half the clips on the floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She laughed. Then she swore. Then she laughed again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    She came back the next Thursday. And the Thursday after that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    By January, her curls were passable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    By February, they were good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    In March, Grandma\u2019s wrist brace came off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She still couldn\u2019t lift her arm all the way above her head. The doctor said she might never be able to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But she could hold the box of clips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Part Twenty-Two: Darla\u2019s Kitchen<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    It\u2019s a Saturday in April now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Two o\u2019clock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I\u2019m sitting at Darla\u2019s kitchen table with a cup of coffee. Cream and two sugars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I\u2019m not setting anybody\u2019s hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Grandma is in the folding chair by the double steel sink. A white towel tucked around her shoulders, over her lavender cardigan. Her eyes are closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla is standing behind her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She tests the water on her wrist. She adjusts it. Tests again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She cups her left hand at Grandma\u2019s forehead. Right along her hairline. So nothing will run in her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    She lets the first warm water touch Grandma\u2019s head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma\u2019s shoulders drop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cOh,\u201d she says. \u201cOh, honey.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    I look at the faucet for a minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Darla washes her hair twice. She massages her scalp for five full minutes. Grandma falls asleep for a little while, right there in the folding chair, with her neck on the rolled-up towel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla doesn\u2019t wake her. She just keeps her hand cupped at Grandma\u2019s forehead and lets the warm water run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    When Grandma wakes up, Darla sits her up and towels her hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then she pulls a kitchen chair around and sits down in front of her mother-in-law with the box of pin curl clips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cOkay, Lorraine,\u201d Darla says. \u201cTell me how you want it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Grandma tells her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cLeft side one way. Clockwise. Toward my face.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cRight side the other.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cTwo rows across the back. Flat. Don\u2019t you dare put them crossways.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Grandma holds the box in her lap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla winds a curl around her finger. She presses it flat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma hands her a clip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Twice, Grandma makes her redo one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cThat one\u2019s crooked,\u201d she says. \u201cTake it out.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla takes it out. She winds it again. She pins it flat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cBetter,\u201d Grandma says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    When the curls are dry, Darla brushes them out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Soft and white and round. A cloud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Darla picks up my silver hand mirror from the counter. She puts it in Grandma\u2019s hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma\u2019s hands still shake. They always will now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    She looks a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then she touches her own hair with the tips of her fingers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    \u201cWell?\u201d Darla asks. Her voice is nervous. \u201cIs it all right?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Grandma lowers the mirror.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She looks up at her daughter-in-law. Forty years of Thanksgiving dinners. Forty years of your hair looks like a haystack.<\/em> One phone call in 1986 that she never answered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She reaches up with her good hand. She touches Darla\u2019s cheek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    \u201cYou\u2019ll do,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Darla laughs. Then she cries. Then she does both at once, standing in her own kitchen with a hairbrush in her hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grandma hands me the mirror.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cNicky,\u201d she says. \u201cWrite it in the book. Saturday. Two o\u2019clock. Darla\u2019s my girl now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    I take out the appointment book from my bag. The one I keep for the shop. I open it to the page for next Saturday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I write it in the two o\u2019clock slot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Lorraine Pederson. Wash and set.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And underneath, in smaller letters:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    With Darla.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n\n\n\n

    Grandma used to say that the whole job was making somebody feel safe with their eyes closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    She was right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But she left something out. Something I didn\u2019t understand until I watched her daughter-in-law cup a hand at her forehead and let the warm water run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    It\u2019s not just the person in the chair who needs to feel safe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sometimes it\u2019s the person at the sink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The one who\u2019s been standing in the doorway with her arms crossed for forty years. Waiting for somebody to come in. Waiting for somebody to say, We didn\u2019t come. I\u2019m sorry.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Waiting for somebody to hand her a clip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Compacted conversation<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    THE END<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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